Sweetheart, you are preaching to the choir. My mother just did a bridal shower and she sent out *45* invitations and got only 5 RSVPs.

Social graces have been completely lost by some people, it seems.

Good luck. And for those that come but didn't RSVP? Say to them, "Well, I am so sorry we've run out of petit-fours...had we but known how many were coming..."

They might not get the subtle insult but you will feel better.