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Friends: We are in a place where the 3yo reliably wakes up around 3 or 3:30 a.m., comes into our room, gets between us in our bed, and goes back to sleep. He’s getting quiet enough at opening and closing the bedroom doors and smooth enough at climbing up into the bed that we often don’t notice he’s there until we turn over and he pushes back against us. Last night/this morning I got up to pee and there he was (thankfully he didn’t crawl into my spot while I was in the bathroom).
It’s great, I guess, that he can get all the way in without waking us at first. But of course once we do wake up it’s very hard to get back to sleep again. When we have the alertness and coordination to take him back to his own bed, it’s like an hour of him coming back in and us taking him back out every three or four minutes. So the grown-ups’ sleep is disrupted badly no matter what happens.
What we need is for him not to come into our room at all (or better yet not to wake up in the middle of the night). Our best guess is that he got so used to being with us All The Time during the big lockdown, and now that he’s back at day care* he misses us and needs more togetherness than we can give him in our waking hours. (I also suspect he is peeing around 3ish and the wet diaper is not super comfortable, but by the time he gets to us it’s done its moisture-wicking thing so he never wakes us up to ask for a change. He is precocious in many areas but potty training is not one of them.) So—who can (a) help with practical ways of keeping him in his own room or (b) reassuring me that it is A Phase and will be over soon?
*I am not here for a discussion of +/- reopening day care and +/- sending him there. I am told by the staff at the actual place that it’s enough different than a school that they themselves feel totally safe, and I believe them.
It’s great, I guess, that he can get all the way in without waking us at first. But of course once we do wake up it’s very hard to get back to sleep again. When we have the alertness and coordination to take him back to his own bed, it’s like an hour of him coming back in and us taking him back out every three or four minutes. So the grown-ups’ sleep is disrupted badly no matter what happens.
What we need is for him not to come into our room at all (or better yet not to wake up in the middle of the night). Our best guess is that he got so used to being with us All The Time during the big lockdown, and now that he’s back at day care* he misses us and needs more togetherness than we can give him in our waking hours. (I also suspect he is peeing around 3ish and the wet diaper is not super comfortable, but by the time he gets to us it’s done its moisture-wicking thing so he never wakes us up to ask for a change. He is precocious in many areas but potty training is not one of them.) So—who can (a) help with practical ways of keeping him in his own room or (b) reassuring me that it is A Phase and will be over soon?
*I am not here for a discussion of +/- reopening day care and +/- sending him there. I am told by the staff at the actual place that it’s enough different than a school that they themselves feel totally safe, and I believe them.
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Sending sympathy, anyway.
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(He says he’s scared of the fan turning on and off, which is a thing we can adjust with the thermostat, so we’re trying that and will see.)