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Dear Civilized Grown-Ups:
It's one thing if someone mentions that it would be nice if you stopped by for dinner on a given day. That may, I suppose, not be considered an invitation -- or, at least, an informal enough invitation that it's okay if you don't let them know until an hour beforehand whether or not you're going to show up. I mean, it's safe to assume that they're going to have dinner whether you're there or not, right?
But please. When you get an invitation in writing -- in writing by hand, I might add, which isn't precisely relevant but did take a lot of time -- and there's two, count 'em, two choices of ways to respond next to the letters "Rsvp," take two seconds, will you, and do it?! A bridal shower is not a thing we can cobble together at the last minute. We need to know how many of you will be there, so we can know how many, I don't know, petit-fours, or whatever, to get. (The food's not my department -- I'm not domestic, remember? [g]) And presumably you need to decide long enough in advance to get a gift, so surely you can let me know right around then? My phone is always on, even if I don't answer it, yay voice mail, and my e-mail always works.
Hope to see you Saturday. Hope we have enough dragée.
Signed,
Fox
(and the rest of the bridal party)
In what social circle is it cool to fail, and fail completely, to respond to a written invitation? Grr. Argh.
It's one thing if someone mentions that it would be nice if you stopped by for dinner on a given day. That may, I suppose, not be considered an invitation -- or, at least, an informal enough invitation that it's okay if you don't let them know until an hour beforehand whether or not you're going to show up. I mean, it's safe to assume that they're going to have dinner whether you're there or not, right?
But please. When you get an invitation in writing -- in writing by hand, I might add, which isn't precisely relevant but did take a lot of time -- and there's two, count 'em, two choices of ways to respond next to the letters "Rsvp," take two seconds, will you, and do it?! A bridal shower is not a thing we can cobble together at the last minute. We need to know how many of you will be there, so we can know how many, I don't know, petit-fours, or whatever, to get. (The food's not my department -- I'm not domestic, remember? [g]) And presumably you need to decide long enough in advance to get a gift, so surely you can let me know right around then? My phone is always on, even if I don't answer it, yay voice mail, and my e-mail always works.
Hope to see you Saturday. Hope we have enough dragée.
Signed,
Fox
(and the rest of the bridal party)
In what social circle is it cool to fail, and fail completely, to respond to a written invitation? Grr. Argh.
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i sent out 86 invitations three or four weeks ago. the thing is next weekend, and yesterday i sent the bride's mother a list of people i hadn't heard from yet: 40 names. plus, there were four or five that i asked the couple themselves about. aiee! (the mother gave me answers for some of them and phone numbers for others, and dammit, i called them.)
your mom still wins on percentage, though. :-)