my mom is fab. :-)

[fox]

so i said:

So, I'm feeling quite a lot better this evening, and I'm sorry again about kind of losing it last night.  (Partly hormones, as I've said, and also I'd just read Dad's e-mail about everyone dying in droves and between those two things and the length of the day, I was a ticking time-bomb.)

It's not that I don't want to go (and a number of my friends have listened to me talk about pretty much what I was talking to you about last night, and said more or less "We hear what you're saying -- but GO, are you CRAZY?!" :-)  ), but I do want not to feel how I expect I will feel at least some of the time -- but that's nothing that's anyone's fault, so it's just something I've got to get around in my head.  I don't especially like being the last single [grandchild, bridge kid, etc.], I admit; but what I *really* hate is the *fact* that it bothers me at all, if you see what I mean.  It's anachronistic and stupid, and I thought (not to put too fine a point on it) that I was better than that.

But anyway.  All that aside, yes, if everybody's going to Hong Kong, I think it would be fun to go, but I still think a week is a long time for those of us who speak no Chinese and don't specifically know people there.  Four or five days seems better, and I had a message from Dad saying something about the timing of everything as well, which I don't remember at the moment but did include the detail of getting back to Indianapolis for [family friend's son]'s wedding, so, yes, New Year's Eve is a bit of a deadline.  (Possible if I had enough advance notice I could make DC-or-New-York-located NYE plans for myself, if I were back in the US in time.)  All that make sense?

to which mom says:

Yes, it all makes total sense to me.  Daddy and I are still discussing the whole thing, but this is all good for us to know.  Re New Year's Eve, we've thought that if we left HK on the 29th to arrive in Indianapolis on the 30, we'd have time to sleep it off so we could enjoy the wedding on the 31... would that work for you?  [I don't know that you'd want to fly into Indianapolis--that would be us, to be efficient about our route.]  And as far as being the last single [fill in the blank], I see what you mean about being bothered by its being anachronistic, but it's also pretty normal I think, and I wouldn't call it stupid.  Of course it would be nice if one didn't ever feel bothered by noticing that "everyone else" is accomplishing something that one hasn't yet done oneself, but it would also be pretty unusual.  I suppose in your thinking about it you've realized that among the people you know who have teamed up with somebody are at least some than whom you're better off ([family friend's divorced daughter] of course, but also possibly some of the still-hitched have partners that *I'm* just as glad you don't have, anyway ...) but that's indulging in comparisons again, which we were trying not to do.  Of course we want you to be happy in every possible way--and I figure that there must just be something especially nice waiting for you in this regard, to be delivered when the time is right.  (Gag me with a spoon, I know, but that's what I think, so there it is.)  And if last night's message is what you sound like when you're "losing it," you're very restrained. :-)

emphasis added and names obscured, but otherwise, that's a direct quote from my mother.  heh.  (it is news to me, incidentally, that she doesn't like some of the people that people in my peer group(s) are married to.  [intrigue])

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[thalia]

Your mother says "Gag me with a spoon"? Wow. She does sound like a terrific mom.